Wednesday, February 20, 2013

jo's friend

Jo has many friends.

One of them is the cutest kid, chatty as hell, and completely comfortable with waltzing up to me one day – “Are you Jody’s mother?” - to tell me how Jo is the best.

We end up talking. Eventually, after we run out of conversation topics, and after most of the class has gone off, I ask the kid: Eh, who is fetching you?

Kid doesn’t know, then volunteers: My papa is in jail. He cannot fetch me. He’s inside for a few years. He did a lot of bad things. But I don’t know if my mummy is fetching me today.

Later, Jo tells me it’s really difficult helping her friend with work. The kid’s father, she says, threw things at the mother.

Kid doesn’t regularly go to school, she says, maybe two or three days in a week, cannot catch up, is very slow work-wise, and gets scolded a lot.

I ask Jo a lot of questions. I tell her what I think, and she tells her friend: Come and talk to my mother.

The kid does. Comes straight up to me as I am picking Jo up and states: You know why I don’t come to school? Because I hate it.

I kneel down, look the kid in the eye and say: You hate school because it’s difficult. But you must come to school and learn so it will get easier. OK?

Kid nods. I’m sure my words won’t make a dent. But I really, really like this kid. And I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

heart wrenching esp for us mothers.

Sher said...

not heart wrenching yet. the kid is still young, receptive, the potential is vast. i hope the school and teachers do right.

Anonymous said...

kid needs to have more encouragement from parents like you and society at large so to have a chance at life!

Anonymous said...

Hi,

I have been following your blog for a while now and my name is Mishel..

I really feel very touch by your kind gesture for the kid...

You are a great mum and a great human! Thanks for making the world a better place... I am sure the kid felt so much love from you.. something she might badly need.

rachel said...

what you are doing is what the kid needs right now. reckon if i were the kid, the world is now a little better because an adult like you showed that you care; it makes a difference! :)

Sher said...

anyone else would have done the same. remember i din go up to the kid, kid came up to me!

and we can all do some good, we can all do more good.

rachel said...

doesn't matter who went to whom first; it's your response.

honestly, i don't think just anyone would do what you did. call me cynical & pessimistic, but there are people out there who would just ignore the child, or worse, tell their own kids not to hang out with the child.

Sher said...

goodness the possibility din even occur to me until you raised it

Lihui said...

You're a gem!