Sunday, December 03, 2017

last post

All good things come to an end.

This will be my last blog post.

Thirteen years, 4793 days, 2647 posts. (go buy 4D)

I’m done.

Encapsulated here, for all time (as long as the Internet prevails) is a 13-year snapshot of the evolution of a happy little family in Singapore.

I have always said, its meant for us, for the kids, when they grow up. I know they already enjoy it and refer to it when there are things they want to remember.

Along the way, if there are people who have enjoyed reading about our journey, if this blog has brought you a little cheer in some way or made you laugh or if you enjoyed my writing, I’m glad.

All of you in Singapore, US, France, Indonesia, Australia, Malaysia, Hong Kong, United Kingdom, United Arab Emirates, Japan.

Farewell. Have a blessed happy life!

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* Replaced previous weird photo with a more appropriate one :)


crabbycrab said...

NOOOOOOOOOOOO! im so going to miss this! my daily read! thankyou for sharing for the last 13yrs!

Jess said...

I love reading your blog! It's so unassuming, candid and easy-to-read! I love it that it is without advertisements too! I will miss this. Thank you for sharing your lives! All the best to you and your family!

Anonymous said...

Nooooo. I've been reading since 19 and I'm 29 now!

Anonymous said...

:"( Your posts will be greatly missed!!! It has been my staple read since 2004. Often, I read your posts for parenting tips as I think you are 1 of the very rare chill mums who brings up very well-adjusted kids with values I wished my own have!

Take care and if I ever bump into you and your family at concerts, I'll say "hi".

P.S. Hope you continue to blog in private just for your kids. I think its a wonderful gift to them.

All the best!

KS said...

Oh no! :( Thanks for sharing your life with us the past 13 years! All the best to Day, Jo and Lu and I'll definite miss reading about their growing up snippets!

Sher said...

thanks so much...
its like a magazine which has stopped going to print :)

i feel like i'm just ending a writing project, no particular sentiment, but it HAS been a long time, hor?

to 29-year-old, when i started u were only 16! good grief! (and when i started the blog, i was only 29!! your age now!!)

as to parenting tips... haha. i dunno abt tt. remember, i only blog abt the GOOD stuff, esp now tt the kids are older and are v much more sensitive abt what i write. its not the full picture.

Theresa said...

oh no! i've been coming over here to read about your wonderful family (and musical) adventures for so many years! i will miss this very much!
one day i might find courage to say hi when we cross paths at Esplanade. when i do find the courage.
all the best!

Anonymous said...

Noooooooo... Please continue writing!!! I so enjoy your writing. So sad to see you stop. I'm sure so many people are devastated.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for sharing so much of your family life all these years. I really enjoyed all the parenting stories, and love the genuine and heartfelt style of your writing. I have been an avid reader since 2013 and was also inspired to start my own blog too as a gift for my daughter to read and look back on when she's grown up. It's really sad that you're not continuing, was still looking forward to reading more about which school Jo would like to go to, if Lu would get to SOTA and continue on to be the artist that she wants to be and also, about your soon-to-be-born niece and the interactions she'll have with your kids! Nonetheless, wish you and your lovely kids a most blessed life ahead and a part of me hopes that maybe one day, you could be back to provide a little update! - a long time reader.

Sher said...

long time reader: oh boy ur right!! its like all the dangling plot lines :)

truth be told i'll likely continue writing but very privately... as KC says it IS a gift to them.

one major concern for stopping is privacy issues, not for myself (i dont care lah) but for kids, and the pp i write abt. i never seek permission to blog about the pp i write about, its possible that some of them mind..

i guess i just want to be a little bit more careful. i'm sure most readers are lovely wholesome parents, but what if i'm wrong?

Anonymous said...

Thank you for penning your thoughts down for your kids and - intentionally or not - for us as well.

Your blog has been with me this past 6 years as I moved from Australia to Singapore to Australia again. (I'm Singaporean.) You definitely have a really chill parenting style which I aspire to have if I have kids in future.

Your words have been food for my soul, especially when I re-read your Sydney writings while struggling to live in this new city that you struggled to live in. When I finally visited Coogee Beach, my first thought was that, hey, you and your family have been here before.

I'm sad that you're not blogging in public anymore (you're my favourite writer and I quote your funny stories to my husband at times) but I know that your decision is for the best.

I'll be re-reading the stories of the lives of KK, Sher Maine, David, Jo and Lu as long as your blog remains up.

Many blessings to you and your family.

Love, Silent Reader G

Anonymous said...

Hi Sher,

Very sad to hear that you will not continue to write. You write the most authentic and raw blog I am seeing on social media these days. I have been a silent reader since a long time I don't even remember how I chance upon your site. The style of your writing and your attitude towards the world and on parenting has not changed since I first started reading and this is so hard to come by. I love your appreciation of a simple life and the enjoyment of simple pleasures. I respect your decision but I really do hope you will continue to write, even if the subject focus may not be your growing kids anymore.

All the best!


Anonymous said...

hi Sher, thanks for your reply, yes, I figured your reason for stopping might have to do with privacy issues (especially when you and your family were recognised on your recent trip) and it is a wise move (as much as it saddens me and so many of your other readers!), to go incognito. Wishing you all the best. I feel like I've lost a friend really, I guess it's because your values and beliefs really resonated with mine (no desire to have a maid, chill mom when it comes to academics, no love for cooking but still persevered 'cos what's a home without home-cooked meals, but of course I haven't got an iota of your writing and musical talents). I will really miss stories of you and day, jo and lu, the 'fab four' and the 'eligible bachelor'. Take good care. - long-time reader

Sher said...

oh the person who recognised us is utterly lovely! but i'm just wondering if there are not-so-nice readers out there who mite stalk the kids, u know.

i cant believe u remember the fab four, tts like my post from 2004.

thanks so much for all the kind words... it really warms my heart to know pp enjoyed my tales.

god knows the rest of the writing i do is never appreciated because u know, its serious heavy stuff which isnt particularly fun.

i'll miss writing from the heart for an audience who genuinely enjoy it, altho tt was never my aim... :)

Anonymous said...

Hello Sher,

It was very surprising (and pleasant) to meet you all in Coogee. I do understand your decision to stop blogging. It's been very generous of you to share so many relatable, intimate moments of your lives over the years. I can see (especially as they approach their teen years) how the kids might now prefer to decide themselves how much the world knows about them.

Please know your blog has been for me a sort of refuge and an inspiration at various times. Reading about your balance of writing, performance, and family obligations has kept me working a bit harder at my own endeavors and relieved that someone else feels occasionally as unsure about certain parenting decisions as I do.

Thank you and your family for the beautiful experiences you have shared. I will miss checking in every few months to see how you all are doing!


Mummy Ghin said...

Shermaine! I'm going to miss reading about your lives but thank you so much for opening up and giving so many readers insights into your thoughts and how you juggle with the demands of parenting and working. But you are right to do this. I have always admired how you manage to document this beautiful journal for your 3 offsprings while managing such a busy lifestyle, but you know what's best for them. Hope to catch up with you someday!


Yve said...

Thank you for sharing all these years. Your writing has been such an inspiration!

Irene said...

Really enjoyed your candid and interesting writing since I chanced upon the blog 10 years ago. I'm not married yet, but have already picked up so many parenting skills from you which I remind myself to apply in the future (if I have kids)!

Will definitely miss reading the interesting things that your family engages in.

Wishing you and your family many many happy years ahead :)

Anonymous said...

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences throughout these years. Like so many of your readers, I have learnt so much from your blog and applied the lessons on my own 13 year old and 8 year old. I do hope you will reconsider stopping the blog completely by maybe considering a change in the theme of your blog ie you could write about interesting events or places without mentioning your children or family? Or just your thoughts and frustrations about child rearing? It is very hard to find an Asian mom perspective who is as refreshingly honest and wise as yourself! I'm sure I'm not the only one who hopes you will continue writing for your loyal readers, who will read what you write no matter the subject content. For example, my older child would love to be a writer, an anime artist and a violinist - the first person I thought of was you with your many talents! Maybe you could write about your talents instead and how we could inspire our children to pursue the less taken artistic route? Once again, you're a great writer, you've made an impact upon your readers so a big thank you for your blog and wishing you and your family all the very best in the future!

Jo said...

As others have already echoed: NOOOOOOOO. But I am blessed because I get to see you and the kids almost every week haha! And because we are both too paiseh to get mushy in person, I will say it here: Thank you so much for your generosity and time this past year. Thank you for welcoming us into your home and family. E & I really appreciate it.


Anonymous said...

All the best for the years ahead! And for the years that you have so generously and candidly shared, a huge thank you! Words can't really express what I felt a few days ago upon learning that you have decided to stop writing; mixed bag of yays (5%) and nays (95%) - but I am sure you have thought through this really quite thoroughly. Still, I'll check in every so often, hoping to see new writings - or even to re-read some of the older ones.

Thank you once again for sharing. Have a blessed and merry Christmas.


crabcrabby said...

you changed a photo, and for a while, i thought there's a new post!! haha! merry xmas!

Anonymous said...

I started reading your blog when i was 23 years old. i used to read in the office of my very first job, not married then. You inspired me to want to be at home with my future kids and watch them grow up. Now i am stay at home mother of 2. I really enjoy reading your blog and learning parenting skills from you. All the best to your family and Merry Christmas!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for all these years of writing. I think i first read your blog when you were in sydney, Baby Jody was so chubby. I loved your writing style, great flow and so easy to read.

Hope to say hi if i ever see you in public!

Wishing you and your family all the very best.

Anonymous said...

Oh No!!! Please continue writing! I had been enjoying your writing soooo much. So sad....

Sher said...

thanks so much.... every comment is like a little hug :)

Anonymous said...

Very sad that this is the farewell. Enjoyed reading your blog from a decade ago from single to married with kids. Want to let you know that I like the way that you handle things - simple vanilla and everything is real as it gets. All the best for your family. If you do change your mind, do keep all of us posted!


Debra said...

Aww very sad to hear that. Your blog has been a daily stop for me even before I had children (now my eldest is 8!) - I love your honesty, candid and how down to earth you are. Take care and all the best!

ZF said...

All good things must come to an end.
Really enjoy reading your blog.
All the best.

Anonymous said...

I've been a silent reader of yours since I was 14 and I am now 25 (26 this year...gasp). You've been so honest in your writing and I will really miss reading your blog :( Saw you last month with Jo, David and Lu at Parkway Parade. Was too shy to say hi... next time I will!

Thank you for this blog although you wrote this for your kids, I've learnt so much from your entries esp about being a parent and a wife.

Pls consider writing again about anything really. I will really miss your writing!!

Dee said...

I can understand your desires to stay safe(from stalker) and private.
I'm going to miss you because you are the rare mum who let her children be what they really are. I hope the three of them will realise how blessed they are and not take things for granted but treasure every opportunity to excel.
I will really miss your blog. Sometimes, other mummies' blog make me feel so lousy because they make me feel like I have to be a super mum to be a good mum. haha.
take care. don't blog about the kids la. blog about other things.

ZM said...

Thank you Shermaine for the years of good reads. All the best for you and your family in the ensuing years! Take care

Kaylene said...

Hi Shermaine, just wanted to drop a note. I've been reading your blog for years, so many that I've lost count. I'm not married nor a parent yet (at the ripe old age of 30!) but I've truly appreciated the wonderful writing here, being a former reporter myself. Thanks for sharing these snippets of your life with us. It's been such an honour to share in your children's growing up years!